Indulging bitterness is one of the stupidest things we ever do. How stupid is it? Think of it this way: Imagine someone stabs us in the arm with a knife. After he flees, we take out the knife, and then begin impulsively to stab ourselves again and again, with our own hand, out of our own choice. We do this again and again, day after day, week after week. It’s just about the stupidest thing we could ever do. But that’s exactly what bitterness is. Someone hurts us, lies to us, gossips about us, fails to support us. It hurts. It hurts badly. It’s like they stabbed our heart with a sharp knife. But rather than turning to God, we keep thinking about the wrong. We play it in our mind like a video, playing it over and over. We stab ourselves with a sharp memory of their wrong, again and again. This is why the Bible reminds us to get rid of all bitterness and malice. God wants to spare us the pain and trouble. The best way to get over those bitter memories is to rejoice over and over in what God has done for us through Christ, and then to ask Him to fill us with grace and love so we can respond to those who wronged us.

Ken Sande, from Focus on the Family

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7 Things Pastors Should Tell People Often

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1) Jesus Christ is the Savior of the world and the only Savior.

2) The Church is an essential part of the Lord’s plan, for now and forever.

3) Salvation is all about the cross.

4) We are not saved by good works, but saved “unto” God works. (Ephesians 2:10)

5) If you have faith, you will pray.

6) A church exists by evangelism and missions as a fire exists by burning.

7) The Bible is the inspired word of God and the spiritual nutrition of believers.


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7 Things Pastor’s Wives Wish They Had Been Told


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1. I wish someone had told me just to be myself. “I am a people-pleaser by nature, so for me, not being prepared to handle being a pastor’s wife with my personality was a heavy burden to carry early in our ministry.”

2. I wish someone had prepared me to deal with criticism of my husband and me. “It was hard to deal with negative experiences, conflicts, or criticisms, especially in relation to my husband and our area of ministry. So I would harbor feelings of resentment when it came to ministry and my man.”

3. I wish someone had reminded me that my husband is human. “I wish someone had told me that my husband could not be God for me. I was disillusioned at first to find out that he indeed is just a man.”

4. I wish someone had told me that others were watching us (the glass house syndrome). “Even though they are watching us, we don’t need to be controlled by what they expect of us.”

5. I wish someone had told me there are some really mean people in the church. “I was really surprised. I had to learn not to pay too much attention to them or they would get me down.”

6. I wish someone had told me how much my husband needs me to build him up. “I need to be his cheerleader. Dealing with critics in the church is difficult. He needs to hear that I respect him now more than ever.”

7. I wish someone had told me that my schedule will never be normal again. “Your husband will be very busy. Expect that. But come alongside him in the areas of time management and organization.”


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